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On My Semi-Organized Life and Learning to Embrace It

Confession: I have a deep, deep green envy for people who lead a super organized life.

I mean, clean workspace? Alphabetized books? Super cute stationery drawers?? Ducks in a neat row, arranged by size???

Cue sparkling eyes.

See, my whole life I always wanted a clean organized room. But alas, no matter how much I angry clean and sort out my books by sizes or spine colors or authors, I can’t seem to accomplish what those folks on #mybookshelves or #myworkspace on Instagram could. One time, I tried incorporating an editorial calendar for a month. And despite how much more efficient it made my blogging process, it only lasted for that month.

No matter how much I try to make myself go into a routine, I just end up going rogue. Very few of the new habits I take stick. And when they do, some don’t even last long either. Or they’re just effective for a short time or in bursts.

That, my friends, is what you call a semi-organized person.

You know how some people are super organized superheroes, and others are, um… cluttered potatoes? Well, there are actually people who fall right in the middle. They’re called semi-organized and I’m one of them. Perhaps you have a suspicion you’re one too. Here are 5 signs you can look into to know if you’re one.

You know how some people are super organized superheroes, and others are, um… cluttered potatoes? Well, there are actually people who fall right in the middle. They’re called semi-organized and I’m one of them. Perhaps you have a suspicion you’re one too. Here are 5 signs you can look into to know if you’re one:

1) Some aspects of your life is clutter-free and neatly ordered while others seem like they’ve constantly been devastated by a tornado.

For instance, my bag is super clean. There’s a system as to where everything is placed – even the trashes that I set aside when I can’t find a bin near me. On the other hand, my workspace looks like it’s constantly devastated by a hurricane. I once misplaced my comb and I couldn’t find it until a couple weeks later. It’s horrendous.

2) Everything is a distraction

You know how you open an app on your phone to do one specific task and then, three hours later, you resurface and have ultimately forgotten what it was you had to do?

Yep. That happens to semi-organized me so many freaking times.

It could be social media, or the television playing on the background, or the music I have playing on my earphones, or shiny things. Maybe even an unusual mannerism from someone in my peripheral vision. The gist is anything can be a distraction. It’s quite difficult for me to focus on one task but when I do, you won’t see me doing anything else for hours.

3) New routines and new habits very rarely stick.

I already mentioned this above but it needs saying again.

Folks, I try. I really really do try. But I always have a hard time creating new or better habits. And even when I do, they don’t stick for very long. One time, I tried to use Habitica. But that didn’t last a week. Another time, I try to do ten-minute exercises every morning, but three cramps-filled days later, I forgot about it.

4) When desperate, you resort to nonsensical multitasking

Oh boy, this happened to me whenever I’m procrastinating in the mornings instead of prepping for school. I end up brushing my teeth and picking out clothes at the same time. Putting on my earrings and carrying my bag out of the room with my teeth. It’s not a pleasant sight to see and I don’t advise anyone visiting our house on 9AM.

5) When you are at peak organized mode, it’s absolutely wonderful

And after finishing your homework, bulk-scheduling posts and arranging your closet to look decent enough, you relax. But also lowkey hoping that you won’t fall into Cluttered Potato Mode for the next several moons or so.

As semi-organized folks, we often have the tendency to fall on either side of the spectrum – extremely organized or cluttered potatoes.

There are super organized people like Marie Kondo and then there are cluttered people like Rebecca Bloomwood. But did you know that therea re also people who fall right in the middle? They're called semi-organized. And I'm one of them. Are you one too?

But for most part, we struggle to be more of the former. To be more organized. To embody the clutter-free spirit of Marie Kondo. But we can’t help it that there’s just that part of us who’s as disheveled and distracted as Rebecca Bloomwood.

It’s sad and, for that little aspiring Marie Kondo-wannabe inside me, quite disappointing.

But this year, I want to embrace my semi-organized-ness. This year, I want to be less critical of myself when I divert from writing blog posts to check on the chickens on the backyard. I want to bask in fully during breaks. But also remember to give myself a push in the back when I’m knee-deep in lazy potato mode. I want to remind myself that there is nothing wrong with taking things slow, or relaxing for a while. And while there is so much joy in accomplishing everything you need to do, there’s also a different but equally wonderful feeling in doing absolutely nothing.

I need to have faith that I’ll figure things out… eventually. And maybe, so do you.

I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU!

Are you a super organized superhero, a cluttered potato, or a semi-organized bloke like me? Is there a trait you didn’t quite like that you want to embrace more this year? Share them below!

xx Kate

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Embracing my semi-organized life and learning to accept that I can never be like Marie Kondo. (And that's okay.)

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Self-Love Starts With Self-Acceptance: Why I prioritize accepting myself first

I think self-acceptance is more important than self-love.

And alright, alright. Before you throw the proverbial eggs at me and demand I wear the cone of shame, hear me out.

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In my quest to devour as many personal development articles as I could, I came across a quote that, frankly, struck a chord in me. I forgot what the exact words were but the thought was this: “If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will find it difficult to love others.”

Honestly, I call BS on that.

Some people are quite capable of loving others wholeheartedly and unquestioningly. But when it comes to themselves, this is a drag-a-square-boulder-up-a-hill kind of battle. It’s difficult. These people often give themselves zero room for errors and set themselves up to extremely high expectations. I always wondered why we do this, why we are so hard on ourselves. And most of us are – especially girls.

I found a bit of insight through Sharon Salzberg. She discussed how we humans were, on an evolutionary standpoint, wired to look for the negativity in our lives. It was literally a surviving mechanism. And this trait has been passed on from generation to generation. It’s probably why we fixate on our failures and inadequacies so much. It’s probably why we do not like our flaws and, ultimately, ourselves.

Look, I’m not saying you should not love yourself. I’m all for that! I just think it’s ridiculous to make it seem like self-love is some kind of prerequisite to other kinds of love. It isn’t. I don’t think so.

I like to believe that self-love, and every other kinds of love for that matter, is one unique experience. Each one is a game utterly separate from the others. They shouldn’t be mushed into one category, as if one kind of love is a level you need to pass through. Learning one kind of love is exclusive of learning all other kinds of love. Apples and oranges, you know?

And here’s what I think:

love needs self-acceptance

It may be accepting the flaws of a partner or child. It may be accepting the shortcomings of a family member or a friend or even a dog / cat / rabbit / bird / unicorn child. Why yes, you can do that to yourself too! You can recognize your flaws and get on better terms with yourself.

Acknowledging and accepting that you are not perfect is very much a part of self-love. But in a way, it’s quite different from the “I love this part about myself” and “I am worthy of good things” cupcakes-and-ice cream kind of self-love that we often see being encouraged in the personal growth community. (Although that’s awesome too!)

Through self-acceptance, you don’t only see yourself for the good and more positive traits that you possess. You also accept the bad and less positive ones. You accept that you are not perfect and are with flaws. You don’t just love the cupcakes and ice cream, you also acknowledge the goodness of broccoli and raisins. You are able to embrace all parts of you. Warts and scars and all.

I mean, aren’t these the parts of ourselves that we find extremely difficult to accept and, ultimately, love? It is because we have these flaws, because we are imperfect, that we hate ourselves in the first place. Sometimes we can focus so much on our shortcomings that we no longer see what we’re good at.
So imagine what would happen if you start to accept your flaws. What would happen if you begin to embrace your imperfections?

This is why in my little journey of loving myself more, I want to focus on self-acceptance. On accepting both the cupcakes and ice cream, and the broccoli and raisins. Because even though those broccoli and raisins don’t taste as good as the cupcakes and ice cream, they’re good for you too. (This is a really long stretch of an analogy but I do hope you get the point.)

Do you struggle with self-love too? What are some of your imperfections that you’ve learned to accept?

xx Kate

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