5 Motivating Reminders for When You Think You’re Not Enough
I’m pretty sure most of us have experienced this.
It’s kinda like a thief in the night. You don’t know when you’re gonna have it. Maybe you just woke up, or you’re studying for your majors, or watching a duck live its fabulous life. And then suddenly, you’re struck with a toxic thought:
I am not enough.
It’s just one thought, one single thought, but it bears so much power that it could lead to other toxic thoughts. It’s like a wobbly chip at the edge of a domino chain. The moment it falls, everything else follows.
And a domino chain of toxic thoughts could be the most awful feeling you could possibly have.
You need to press pause when it happens. You need to remind yourself that you are enough. Here are 5 powerfully motivating reminders for when it happens.
1 | You’re achieving just by living
This is a brilliant quote I got from the ever-inspiring Bianca Bass. And she’s absolutely right. The fact that you are here right now, that you’re living and striving to get past every obstacle thrown your way is more than enough. It shows that you are growing. It shows that you are resilient and strong enough to get through life’s obstacles.
And let’s be real here, this whole being a human thing can be pretty difficult — even Bianca Bass thinks so!
Everyone has no idea what they’re doing 80% of the time. Everyone is struggling with their own inner (and outer) demons. You don’t have to do everything all at once. No one faults you for not being perfect, okay? Absolutely no one.
2 | You matter. Always.
I know this is hard to see, sometimes. It is especially difficult when you’re wrapped tightly around the thought that you don’t matter. And you have this nagging feeling that no one thinks you do.
But try to get past that. Look beyond the fog blurring your mind and you’ll see. There are people who look at you with concern in their eyes. Who look at you and see you. And the first person you should look beyond that fog? You.
Stand in front of the mirror. If it hurts to look at your reflection at first, grab one of those compact ones and bring it close enough that all you can see is your eyes. And remember: Those eyes know you matter. They know.
Related: Why I Prioritize Self-Acceptance over Self-Love
3 | You have made the best of difficult moments
Remember #1? When I said you were striving past every obstacle handed to you?
Now, think of all the awful situations you’ve been in before. Look over your shoulder to them. Then look at where you are now.
You got through them.
Isn’t that amazing? I think it’s amazing. And maybe you brought with you scars — most of the time, it does. But you are here. And everything you’ve passed through is over there waaay back behind you. This reminds me of that line in Hamilton’s “That Would Be Enough.”
“Look at where you are
Look at where you started
The fact that you’re alive is a miracle
Just stay alive, that would be enough”
4 | You are bigger than any obstacle
You are stronger than any difficult situation. Remember those past obstacles you got through? Use them as a reminder that whatever else you’ll face ahead, you can get past it, too.
Think about it. So far, your success rate of getting past all those obstacles is 100%. Someone once said — I forgot who it was — that humans were built in such a way that they always get to where they need to be. And I think that is so true. We may go through detours and u-turns and some awfully long pit stops. But eventually, we get to where we need to be.
5 | Have faith that everything will come together
I know that when you’re at your lowest, this can seem far-fetched and fictional. Sometimes I still catch myself thinking, “Really? Something good is out there? Why does that seem foolishly hopeful?” But do you really think that pain is just there for no purpose other than to let you suffer?
Actually, you can think that.
You can think everything and everyone exist to be against you. And the problems you are facing? Maybe they’re only there just to hurt you.
OR, you can learn from them. You can carry with you the lessons you learn from every experience you’ve gone through. You can look at that scar as a reminder. That you are strong and there is something beyond those challenges. And you can bring the experiences with you forward into your journey.
I understand how hard it must be when your entire being feels like it’s drowning in worries and doubts and toxic thoughts. You’d feel worthless. But please know that you are MORE than that.
You are not worthless.
You deserve happiness and assurance and the most awesome rainbow Mother Nature can provide.
Because you are you.
And that is enough. You are enough.
If you ever need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate on contacting me via email or through my social media accounts. All my inboxes are always open for you 🙂
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This is wonderful and so uplifting, Kate xx
Thank you Bea! <3 How are you? xx
I’m okay thank you! How are you? Xx
Am I enough though? To be honest, people VALUE ME. Like you said, people always will care about me. I’m so lucky for that and I AM STILL ALIVE, but was I the one who helped get through those obstacles. Um…maybe not? WHY AM I SO NEGATIVE? But this was really warming to see! I guess I’ll just have faith xx
Okay Ilsa, this is a really good insight you have here and it got me thinking.
I think for anyone to get through any obstacles, you need a little help from yourself. I’ve found that no matter how encouraging the words from your friends and family are and no matter how much the people who value you, the endgame is dealt only by you. And the moment you take action, take that first move with the intention of getting past that obstacle, that’s when you’ve helped yourself 🙂
Gosh, I dunno if that makes any sense but thank you for sharing your thoughts! I do hope this will help in a way. And if you need someone to talk to or vent your woes, please know that I am only an email away 🙂 <3
Awww this post was so cheerful!! Your words of wisdom make me feel better, and I’m COMPLETELY HAPPY WITH MYSELF!! 😀 LOL 😛 So imagine someone feeling bad!
And omg being alive is so effing crazy amazing, just the fact that we were the fastest spermatozoa of your dads!! OUT OF MILLIONS OF THOSE CELLS!! That’s pretty crazy!! 😀
Again, great post!!
Hahahaha that is a brilliant way of looking at being alive, Anna! And very scientific too 😉 Thank you so much! 😀
No problem!! I saw it on a youtube video LOL 😛 😀
Awwwe, thank you so much Cait! And yes, I think all we need the reminder every once in a while 🙂 <3
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